Social media, the platform we use to share our talents, abilities, charisma and sensuality; has allowed us to feel strong and confident in ourselves. But it is also the hiding place for those who only become strong when they destroy the others. Give a man a social network account and remember Oscar Wilde’s quote “Give a man a mask and he will show you his true face”.
Myths and Realities of the camgirl industry
When I’m walking down the street people always say nice things to me, usually they give me some compliments and ask me to take a couple of pictures with them. But when I get home and check my social media, I find dozens of messages where they call me ‘fat’, ‘whore’, ‘slut’, ‘sick’; or where they tell me how much they want to have sex with me – with a photograph attached – and take me “like a rat”. Social media, the platform we use to share our talents, abilities, charisma and sensuality; has allowed us to feel strong and confident in ourselves. But it is also the hiding place for those who only become strong when they destroy the others.
Among the many potential victims of bullying there is a space reserved for women who are part of the adult entertainment industry. Although the statistics confirm that everyone – at least those who know how to use the technology – have enjoyed pornographic and erotic content, a vast majority is not only embarrassed to accept it but is also willing to make us feel ashamed for creating that content.
Others, force us to cater to their morbidity, invading our personal spaces. Sometimes, when I reject vulgar comments, they reply, “Why do you complain? You sell pornographic videos and do not expect to be treated like an object?” The difference is that my content is there for anyone who is willing to watch it, on the other hand, their messages try to force me to see something I don’t want to.
Not long ago a girl tried to commit suicide in Medellin. She jumped onto the subway tracks after some of her explicit webcam videos were leaked. Many said that the videos were going to be leaked sooner or later, because it is impossible to hide anything on the web. But choosing to block content for the country of origin is a personal decision of the camgirls, on the other hand stealing webcam shows and publishing them is a crime; and to ridicule a woman for her honest and complex work, is simply inhuman.
Not taking into consideration the damage that can be caused by prejudice-motivated attacks, to the point of driving someone to the edge just because she is happy without harming others, is one of the lowest acts of dehumanization alongside murder. One of the offenses was the trigger of her decision, this offense was fixed on her mind since he left her house until she arrived at the subway station. The person who stole, published, shared or reproduced that sensitive material, invaded the personal space of a woman who had decided she did not want her body to be seen in her own country.
When I ask some why they offend me so intensely, they tell me: you look so strong that I did not think you would care. I explain to them that being wide-open to the public causes those messages to reach the hundreds every day. As pleasurable as I find the work that I do, and as much as I enjoy sharing my body and my being with those who like what I do, I am so human that sometimes I cry in the shower, that sometimes I want a hug and that sometimes I come to think that hate messages are right about me.
Common sense is a thing of the past. The banner of absurdity flies in the collective mind, humanity is lost between prejudices and rules shared by traditions, which are a key part of this setback. That’s when we prefer to hug a dog and not a human. The good thing is that in most cases, the sad moments end after a while and then we can take comfort in the people behind the screen that care about us – they are the most important thing – and the others, who have offended us, walk around changing their masks, insulting anyone who crosses their paths, while the Government stick it to them and we receive our tokens.