A confession with arguments: Mom, Dad, I’m a webcam model

We have already discussed this issue. The importance of telling your parents, family and friends the honest work models do. The best thing to do is always be honest from the beginning, because it gives you the ability to say it on your own terms, avoid panic and have the opportunity to sit down and explain the work that a webcam model does.

We have always insisted that doing it this way can be the difference between being a victim of social harassment, by acquaintances or strangers who can discover who you are during a broadcast of your show and be a professionally recognized model.

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The repercussions in webcam modeling career are clear, you can’t work quietly if you are concerned that someone can discover you, you can’t develop your career in social networks and expand your horizons with ease as well as fail to perceive potential earnings.

When you decide to tell your parents by your own decision: “Dad, Mom I’m a webcam model”. You must be prepared for a series of questions. Some will be easy to explain and others not so much, because you must overcome the social stigma of adult entertainment industry, however, there is no obstacle impossible to overcome, especially when you are the one who is willing to step forward and explain your work. That’s why today, thanks to a text sent to me by the model “Ego”, we give you a list of the most common questions that you should answer:

Q: Is it legal?

A: In Colombia webcam modeling is neither legal nor illegal, it is in a gray area because there is no legislation for this work, so it complies with the rules that the law provides on teleworking, Internet sales, Electronic commerce, and everything related to  tasks established in the legal parameters of the country. And as it comes to adult entertainment only accepts legal-age people.

Q: Is it prostitution?

A: Your answer should be that you never meet people in real life to do some “physical job“. It’s not prostitution. There is never physical contact. They do not pay you to go to a room to have real sex with a user. Everything is done on Internet.

Q: Do people pay you for actual sex?

A: Again, the answer is “no” because you do not know the people in real life, you do not have physical contact with them. When users come to your room 90% of the time they’re looking for company, with whom to talk, and entertain themselves. Sex goes into the background and, when it happens, everything is virtual.

Q: Will they know where you live or try to meet you?

A: The webcam sites on which a model transmits are not allowed to give the model personal information to the users, as well as their telephone number or address. All data is private.

Q: Should you be naked all the time?

A: The answer is no, you wear suggestive clothes. Only private shows may require it.

Q: Should you do whatever the users ask you to do?

A: Again, you must say no to this. You are the one who decides what to do and what not, the show is done on your own terms, your way and classy. Webcam modeling is much more like an art, not just sex (virtual).

Q: If someone you know sees you …

A: Pages dedicated to webcam modeling can block countries, that’s mean people from some regions will not be able to enter your show. They will only be able to see you if they use programs that generates IP’s from other places or they find a video or photo of you on Internet.

Q: Are you going to have sex in front of the camera?

A: You will be alone, sex will not properly exist, but self-stimulation in front of the camera. In other words, you’ll masturbate solo.

Q: How long do you have to do it?

A: The hours that you consider, it is a job like any other, however you have the freedom to choose the duration time that you will be in front of the cameras.

Your family is likely to be concerned about developing your offline activities such as your studies or your social life. On this you must explain to them what you want to do and which your plans are. It is always possible to develop activities, only organization will allow you to carry them out.

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Telling them from the beginning allows you to do it measuring damage control. However, if they discover that you are a webcam model it is important to follow the following tips:

• Face them. Do not run or hide: You are an independent, secure and honest woman, you know what you do and you should not be ashamed of it.
• Listen to them: It won’t be easy, they may use strong words and even disqualify you, but do not shout back. Explain them and tell them about the work and the differences with the rest of the adult entertainment.
• Anticipate their questions: You must demonstrate that you are aware of all your work details, that you handle your time and explain that you follow the regulations established by law.
• Give them some time: Once you have to face this news on a society taboo you must give them the necessary space to digest the information and take a different less confrontational position.
• Do not push it: again, give them time. Everything passes away.